Dagger in her heart

A dagger of disappointment pierced her soul, and she felt deserted.

Kim Soo left South Korea to come to the United States to marry her American fiancee. When she arrived, he told her he no longer wanted her as his wife.

She felt devastated, deserted, worthless. The embarrassment and humiliation were too much for her to bear. In South Korea, a girl often committed suicide when she was spoken for, and then the man deserted her. She shared that she had considered ending her life. She felt an embarrassment to her family. My wife spent countless hours listening, counseling, and praying through tears and her shame to change her mind about suicide. Kim Soo said, “I feel like a dagger is piercing my heart.”

It’s hard for us Americans to understand such a cultural tradition that when a girl was refused in marriage, the honorable thing was to commit suicide. We reminded her that life is full of disappointments and heartaches, and that God himself could heal her pain. We finally convinced her that God had a plan for her and that he’d clarify that plan in his own time and way.

She continued to work as a seamstress and live with us until she was able to live on her own. Then she met a Christian man and they were married. How honored I was to stand with her as her “father” at that ceremony.

The Scripture Deut 31:6b took on new meaning for Kim Soo and my wife and me. Her finance promised his word but broke it. In contrast, God has promised: “I will never leave you nor forsake you,” and he has never broken that promise! God did not forsake her. Instead, he gave her someone far better, for He–in his own time and way–had finally removed the dagger from her heart.

What Scripture has helped you handle a major disappointment in your life?

3 thoughts on “Dagger in her heart

  1. Emily really had a servants heart! Prov.3:5-8 is my verse that has helped me many times. Love, Betsy

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  2. Hi Leon,
    Just back from Utah; brought Shalom and Naomi with us – what joy!
    ” I feel like a dagger is piercing my heart” – what a deeply moving comment!! And truly, ONLY GOD could remove that pain – what a testimony to our faithful and compassionate and ever-present Father.
    The verse that comforts me is Proverbs 19:21 ” Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it’s the Lord’s purposes that prevail.” Love to you and Emily, Janey

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